Are you part of a couple where one partner identifies as a bisexual or bicurious woman? Are you looking to connect with other bi+ women in the San Diego area? Then welcome to San Diego Bi Wives!

This is a friendly and inclusive social group dedicated to building community and expanding our friend circles. We offer a relaxed and supportive environment for couples with bisexual women to connect.

We'll be organizing casual meetups around San Diego, including evenings at local bars and breweries, friendly competition at bowling alleys, fun in the sun at beach outings, and enjoying the vibrant atmosphere of local festivals. Our goal is simple: to create genuine connections, share fun experiences, and foster new friendships within the community.

Whether you're looking to meet other bi+ women, connect with couples who understand your experiences, or simply want to expand your social network, we'd love for you to join us! Let's build a fun and supportive community together in sunny San Diego.

Our goal is to create a meetup group for couples with bisexual wives in San Diego that can cultivate a unique and valuable sense of community. It offers a dedicated space for partners to connect with others who share similar relationship dynamics and understand the nuances that come with loving a bisexual woman. 

Recognizing that bisexual women in committed relationships can face distinct challenges, including biphobia (even within the broader LGBTQ+ community), our aim is to celebrate our identities and our relationships. 

This can lead to the formation of strong friendships built on shared experiences, providing a supportive network where couples can exchange insights, discuss challenges, and celebrate the joys of their relationships in a non-judgmental and understanding environment right here in our city.

Bisexual+ people represent a substantial part of the LGBTQ+ community, yet face ongoing underrepresentation and have their authenticity challenged by both heterosexual and other LGBTQ+ individuals. This struggle is intensified by a societal preference for binary categories, which often marginalizes nuanced identities. 

The common assumption that individuals are either exclusively gay or straight based solely on their partner's gender frequently overlooks the reality of bisexuality+. This societal tendency can be attributed, in part, to a discomfort with identities that challenge traditional, heteronormative understandings of attraction. It is essential for all members of the LGBTQ+ community to actively recognize and celebrate the existence and validity of bisexual+ identities, fostering a sense of shared community.

We must also acknowledge the diverse realities within the bisexual+ spectrum. Bisexual+ people are not all monogamous or cisgender, and like many gay, lesbian, and trans individuals, the ability to come out is not a universal privilege. The decision to come out can be particularly challenging for bisexual+ individuals who may anticipate facing ignorant reactions, fear losing family connections, or reside in areas where LGBTQ+ identities are unsafe or criminalized. 

Bisexual Erasure

Married or partnered bisexual+ women, regardless of their relationship structure – whether in monogamous, polyamorous, or ethically non-monogamous commitments – often navigate a distinct set of challenges and even encounter biphobia. Within monogamous relationships with a partner of a different gender, their bisexuality can be erased or questioned, with assumptions of heterosexuality becoming the default.  

Conversely, in same-gender relationships, their attraction to other genders might be dismissed as a phase or a sign of not being "truly" lesbian. For those in polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous relationships, their bisexuality can be hypersexualized or seen as inherently linked to their relationship style, rather than an intrinsic part of their identity. Across all relationship structures, bisexual+ women may face skepticism from within both heterosexual and other LGBTQ+ circles, struggling to have their identity validated and understood beyond the confines of their current partnership. 

Our group intends to create a safe space for bisexual+ women in long-term relationships to make new friends, support each other, and have some fun while being our true selves!